An open letter to Nicole Arbour


You may have heard about this. A YouTube Comedienne had her channel taken down for some comments she made about overweight people. Now, some people acted in rage, and others came to her defence. Which made me think about it. So I wrote an open letter which I am posting today.

Dear Nicole,

A lot has been said about you over the last few days, and I wanted to take a middle road approach. Some people have outright attacked you, while some have blindly defended you. That is justified. But I have my own opinions, as to why I’m being neutral in all this.

If you understood what people had to go through, you’d think about what you said. I am overweight, and I do joke about it, because it helps me accept that that’s what I am. I’m trying to exercise more, but not because of people like you who make fun of me.

There’s a difference between joking and mocking. While I think you were (I hope you were) trying to joke, you mocked fat people. That’s why we’re pissed off. It didn’t help you turned off comments or likes either, or blocked ‘haters’ on Twitter.

I’m not trying to attack her or defend her. I’m trying to reason with you people. There’s a fine line between mocking and joking. We can joke about taboo things, like the Holocaust, but you can’t outright mock it. People felt she mocked them.

And while I feel that taking off her YouTube could be a little heavy handed, when Alex Day, a rapist and molester, still HAS a you tube channel. At the same time, I guess it’s a lesson. Joking and mocking aren’t one and the same.

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Since 2012, Benjamin Attwood has written for the If you Ask Ben blog.

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